Anger Management and the Fawn Complex PTSD

Anger Management should be anger release, being able to confess and express it, however, you choose and then dissolving it from your energetic field so that it cannot continue to control you unconsciously, as part of the Fawn programming and brainwashing department has done so far in your life.  Please see my article https://innerchildharmonycoaching.com.au/fawn-the-complex-f-response-to-trauma-no-one-is-talking-about/

Anger, resentment, jealousy and envy are normal emotions and always the opposite to love, peace,  equality, we each have within us. We need the opposites to create balance and harmony within our bodies and life for healthy boundaries to exist.  These ‘normal emotions’ were to be explored, experienced in childhood and when they are not expressed fully and released, they create the ‘normal’ rage, tantrums, yelling and screaming, seeking a natural release from our emotional fields.  As people pleasers we have learnt to implode, to suppress them and now we need to learn to express in a healthy way.  This has created dis-ease in all areas of our life, relationships, health, finances and love to get our attention to disconnect from these limited negative childhood beliefs and memories.  How does this relate to your life?  We attract that which we need to heal, within ourselves, and not heal the person before us. That is not our responsibility.

When we were taught, at a young age, to close anger down, that it is wrong, it’s bad, it’s evil, that’s when it becomes a problem inside our energy fields, locked into this attachment and connection to memory and time that no longer exists for us, anymore, only ever in our mind. For we are not that age or size anymore, but it controls us so tightly, to keep the lid on it, to keep that pleasing other, fearing any conflict, that we are numbed into submission and in constant fear of the anger coming to the surface.

It’s taken years of imploding, stuffing it down, holding your tongue, keeping quiet, suppressing the natural instincts of expressing outwards, to become who we are, the people pleasers and permanent assistants to everyone else’s success in life. Many beautiful clients I see are loving, gentle and helpful, that I say to them ‘the anger and the rage that I see, which has been suppressed and locked away deep within their energy field is a timebomb.’

What if the wrong person, did the wrong thing, in their current life which reminded them of something in the past, that locked-up rage and anger within, could and would kill somebody, without them realizing and being able to prevent it.  We see it on the news every day, people are so overcome, they cannot control it any longer and lash out, before long doing something they will regret forevermore.  Adding alcohol and drugs to the mixture allows the subconscious to become ‘the hulk’ and break free, doing more damage than able to ever contain.

Coward of the County by Kenny Rogers comes to mind.  ‘Tommy’ made a ‘promise to live the life his father hadn’t and not the life of his own choosing and destiny.  When pushed too far, he did what was natural, this is what I see in my clients after they have completed personal sessions or teaching programs.

Everyone considered him the coward of the county
He was only ten years old when his daddy died in prison
I looked after Tommy, ’cause he was my brother’s son
I still recall the final words my brother said to Tommy
“Son, my life is over, but yours has just begun”

“Promise me, son, not to do the things I’ve done
Walk away from trouble if you can
Now it won’t mean you’re weak if you turn the other cheek
I hope you’re old enough to understand
Son, you don’t have to fight to be a man”

The Gatlin boys just laughed at him when he walked into the bar room
One of them got up and met him halfway cross the floor
When Tommy turned around they said, “Hey look! Old Yellow’s leaving”
But you could’ve heard a pin drop when Tommy stopped and locked the door

Twenty years of crawling was bottled up inside him
He wasn’t holding anything back, he let ’em have it all
When Tommy left the bar room, not a Gatlin boy was standing
He said, “This one’s for Becky”, as he watched the last one fall
And I heard him say

“I promised you, Dad, not to do the things you’ve done
I walk away from trouble when I can
Now please don’t think I’m weak, I didn’t turn the other cheek
And Papa, I should hope you understand
Sometimes you gotta fight when you’re a man”

Everyone considered him the coward of the county.  Kenny Rogers

To begin living the life the clients were born to live, with their own soul truth, alignment and soul purpose which each person has been given.  Not one built out of the fear of hurting, letting down or aggravating others or trying to fix, rescue or change others. This is not our responsibility unless they are under 18 years of age.

This Christmas please be mindful of the environment, express yourself or remove yourself from situations that can cause aggravation for you.  Please seek out the right practitioner with the right environment, one that you can trust and have faith in, one that will keep you in a safe protected process to confess all your soul truth until completed, one that will allow you to speak and express all the unexpressed emotions that have been trapped inside your energy field, only then will you be set free.  There is no better time than right now, where you are to seek peace, love and the abundance that awaits your Soul Freedom. Please Book a Chat with me for the New Year, your life will love you for it. https://innerchildharmonycoaching.com.au/online-bookings/

There is a mythic woman, much-maligned throughout history, whose name means ‘all gifted ‘, her name is Pandora and I have been working with this energy over the past six months. This ‘Pandora’ lives within each of us as a curious nature, yearning to conquer chaos, evil and darkness with the light of knowledge.  She is a hopeful voice of our soul that asks the questions and in doing so triggers a process that brings the answers we are seeking, to be released of all this past limiting beliefs and memories.

You too, are a divinely defiant believer in hope, who shall cast off the works of anyone who seeks to torment you including the fawn Complex PTSD, which in fact is, your abuser’s voice still echoing in your mind reminding you that you are still this.

I now leave you with a prayer and intention for your inner child to be released, set free and your adult life to now manifest the highest purpose and best possible outcome from this day forward. Place your hands on your heart and close your eyes for a moment, allow your heart light to be unmasked from shame, guilt, fear and doubt.  That those who seek to torment me are unequivocally uninvited, including fawn, now.

I bow only before divine truth, light and love, all else is dismissed. I respect your right to live as you choose but you aren’t welcome in my soul, my heart anymore, so be gone, I command this now!  Imagine, feel, visualise, intend, that you are breathing in divine light, in an out through your heart space.  Breathing in God’s divine will, breathing out Fawn’s will.  As you breathe in this beautiful divine light, anything that is not for your highest good, dissolves out of your heart out through the front, the back and the sides and the light simply grows and grows.  Relax as you do this, it is so natural for the heart to amplify divine light, it is a way that the soul breathes

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